Millennial Love

🚀 The Book in 3 Sentences

This book is a gathering of all things related to the art of modern dating. Olivia Petter explores how dating apps, shows, porn and the sexual revolution has changed how we approach love. It is a deeply personal tale, with examples and anecdotes that underlines the cold hard numbers.

🎨 Impressions

I had a nonchalantly good impression of it, when she told stories she had heard and her own experiences, the message resonated more loudly than when she tried to become to political. It is one-sided, which is not necessarily a bad thing, and it struggles to accept the complicated realities of what is going on. It is also a biting critique of all things non-cis-feminist, whether or not you include a paragraph about non-western people being austrazied

☘️ How the Book Changed Me

Out of all the things she writes about, the abortion history was haunting and a good reminder to check your privileges.

✍️ My Top Quotes

• It took me forty-five minutes to find somewhere to eat dinner, because every single place I’d been recommended was either too romantic or too Instagrammable for me to feel comfortable sitting there alone. I also can’t speak French, which was unhelpful. All of which led to me sobbing into a bowl of cold ravioli in the worst Italian restaurant in Paris.

• Sometimes I want to be the kind of woman who dances through life and needs no one. Other times I just want to have someone to stroke my hair and tell me I have the best tits they’ve ever seen.

• ‘You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.’

• This brings me to a specific form of sliding into someone’s DMs known as ‘Tindstagramming’, a harmful dating trend that was first reported about in 2017. This is how it works: someone who you’ve rejected on a dating app finds you on Instagram and slides into your DMs to give it another shot. Tindstagramming became easier in 2015, when Tinder allowed users to link their Instagram accounts to the app.

• In 2015, Tara Marshall, a British psychologist at Brunel University, found that as many as one-third of people stalk an ex-partner on social media at least once a week.

• Roughly one in three people have used either dating apps or websites – this figure increases to almost half among 18- to 29-year-olds.[] More than 340 million people have downloaded Tinder since its launch. You can find 476 million on Badoo. A further 95 million on Bumble. And 70 million on happn. You’ll find seven million people on Plenty of Fish, six million on Grindr, and four million on Her.

• If you’re into firefighters, nurses, police officers, or anyone who works in uniform, try Uniform Dating.

• Margaret Atwood’s famous quote: ‘Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.